Lets talk about life. A very popular topic but not one that everyone really truly understands. The biggest thing I’ve noticed around people I see is that life seems to be “spinning out of control for them”. I know I’ve been there, and nowadays I do genuinely feel I do have at least some control of my life, although I know I still have ways to go I know where I want my future self to be.

So here we go, 5 simple tips to taking control of your life.

1. How reactive are you emotionally?

Ever heard of the cliche “act don’t react to life”? Most of us feel we lose control of life because we are very reactive to every little problem, every comment made by another person, every feeling, thought and emotion. This is not to mean that we need to go through life being emotionless, cold and distant from every body but what it does mean is that you should at least pause, stop to think, “what does this mean to me and does it really affect me” then chose an appropriate action.

2. We have complete control of our emotions if we choose to think and act before we feel.

You’ll realize that many of your emotions are just simple triggers. Like getting angry if someone violates your values or getting sad after your feel loss (loved one, sense of identity or security, or maybe a object you treasure).

If you are a very reactive person the key is to become more aware. Instead of blaming how bad your life is due to your emotions, why not catch yourself when you know you’ve lost sense of yourself after a breakdown. The more you catch yourself the earlier you’ll be able to catch your emotions before they run rampant and become uncontrollable.

3. What does this mean to me?

eg 1: Stranger comes up to you and tells you that you are are hopeless.

Reactive: “How dare you! You don’t even know me”, or “I can’t believe he/she said that too me, now I feel horrible”.

Nonreactive: “I don’t know this person, their opinion doesn’t affect me. If they were a loved one then perhaps this might be a cry for help.” or “Thanks, how are you going today”.

Being non-reactive doesn’t have to make sense, it just have to be enough to allow to have time to choose how you think, feel and act.

4. Deal with the small things, start working in your priorities.

Life can be a marathon and your problems can seem like a garbage tip. The key is to keep moving forward even if its one small step at a time. Once you start building momentum you can start tackling bigger and bigger tasks.

Thing of it like gears in a car. You always start with first gear, then shift to second, third, fourth, fifth and etc. If you tried to start the car in neutral and then shift straight to 4th or 5th gear what happens? You stall because there is not enough momentum to keep the car going at that gear. So before you try to shift into higher gears in life, try starting from the beginning and building up momentum.

5. Self centered versus centering yourself and attracting and influencing the world.

There are two extremes but you can get 3 types of people.

- Self Centered
- Pinball
- Magnetic and Influential

Self Centered people are usually non-reactive but there’s one problem. They are usually so self absorbed they do not have the ability to leverage others to attract everything they want in their life, nor are they extremely influential, unless it’s through physical means for example.

Pinballs are the type of people that let their environment and the people dictate everything that happens to them in life. They launch off into life with the plunger, then get knocked about by every single obstacle, noise and crazy atmosphere. They never know where they are going and rely on “luck” or so called fate.

Magnetic’s and Influentials are the type of people are non reactive to their evironment, they choose how to act to the people and environment and problems around their life. They hold such a strong core and end up creating their “fate” and in the process know how to leverage others to do it by serving/helping others get what they want. This is the type of person you want to be, with this type of personality you can have anything you want in life without letting obstacles, problems and negative people bring you down.

In summary, take a close look at your life and see what category you fall in and perhaps it might surprise you how easy it is to change your life by making a simple adjustment to your personality.

Stay warm and inspired,
Kase Cheah =D

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